When violence against women is discussed, the focus almost always falls on the direct victim. Children are rarely mentioned. And yet they are there — and they notice everything.
A child does not have to be physically injured to carry the consequences of domestic violence. It is enough to live in an atmosphere of constant fear, tension and insecurity. A raised voice, threats, control, humiliation — a child absorbs all of it, even when they do not fully understand what is happening.
Many believe that children do not see or understand. That is not true. Children notice much more than adults think. They feel the tension between their parents, changes in mood, silence that lasts too long and fear hanging in the air.
The consequences vary, but they are recognisable: withdrawal, problems with concentration and learning, nightmares, anxiety, aggressive behaviour and feelings of guilt. Some children become invisible, while others begin to rebel. It is particularly dangerous that children who grow up with violence often begin to believe that it is normal — that control, fear and aggression are part of love and family life. This pattern is then carried into their future relationships.
Children often feel personally responsible as well. They think they are the reason for the arguments, or that they could have prevented something. This feeling of guilt places a deep burden on their development.
Children do not need an intact family without safety — they need a safe and stable environment free from fear.
Staying in a violent relationship “for the sake of the children” almost never protects children. It protects an appearance. Children do not need an intact family without safety — they need a safe and stable environment free from fear. Supporting the mother also means protecting the child. When a woman receives help to leave violence, the child gets a chance to grow up in a healthier environment.
Professional help is important for both women and children. Violence is not only a blow — it is an atmosphere that shapes lives. Every child deserves to grow up in a home where love means safety, not fear.
The “OSNAŽI” project recognises this connection. By empowering women, children are also protected, the cycle of violence is interrupted and healthier communities are built.
Violence is never only an adult problem. It leaves a mark on those who remain silent, watch and grow up in silence.
The “OSNAŽI” project is implemented with the support of the Secretariat for Social Protection of the City of Belgrade.